Conscious Relationships: The Fundamentals
The following is an outline of some of the characteristics of healthy, conscious relationships.
Please know that this is not a rulebook where you have to do each thing perfectly. However, having certain guiding principles is key.
If you are new to this work, go slowly and implement one thing at a time. Conscious relationships are a new way of relationship that we have not been taught or modeled before. We are attempting to do this through practice, humility, and willing to be messy.
Conscious relationships bring up all your 'stuff' and are best done with support. I help clients navigate conscious relationships through 1:1 sessions and couples sessions. I also run a co-ed group of individuals interested in conscious relationships. Reach out here to learn more.
Please know that this is not a rulebook where you have to do each thing perfectly. However, having certain guiding principles is key.
If you are new to this work, go slowly and implement one thing at a time. Conscious relationships are a new way of relationship that we have not been taught or modeled before. We are attempting to do this through practice, humility, and willing to be messy.
Conscious relationships bring up all your 'stuff' and are best done with support. I help clients navigate conscious relationships through 1:1 sessions and couples sessions. I also run a co-ed group of individuals interested in conscious relationships. Reach out here to learn more.
- A conscious relationship is one where we become aware of how we are showing up as a partner. From this awareness, we become curious about behaviors that serve the relationship, and behaviors that do not.
- We commit to learning about the characteristics of a healthy relationship, and agree upon shared values and goals to keep things healthy.
- We commit to cultivating closeness with each other. We do this by showing up authentically and vulnerably, and creating safety in the relationship for both people to do so.
- We use healthy communication skills - receptive listening skills, and open hearted, authentic expression. We attempt to be present with our partners when we are engaging in conversation, especially when the conversation is intimate and vulnerable.
- Reciprocity is key - there is an overall balance of each person's needs being tended to.
- We take ownership of ourselves and the relationship. We understand that we need to commit to our own growth, as well as the growth of the relationship + our partner.
- Growth mentality is key. We understand that relationships bring up all of our 'stuff' so that we can evolve. We see this as an incredible opportunity, not as something that we want to avoid. In this way, these relationships have the potential to be the #1 driver for our expansion.
- We commit to doing the inner work to heal triggers, wounds, and old patterns for the sake of ourselves, our partners, our children, and everyone around us.
- Each partner has an understanding of attachment styles, and is committed to moving towards healthy attachment.
- We understand that these relationships encourage deep vulnerability so that we can share our most authentic selves with our partner, and experience what it feels like to be loved fully in that space.
- We practice moving through conflict in a healthy way, without running away from challenges. Things do not get swept under the rug. We also commit to repairing misunderstandings or hurts afterwards if conflicts are not resolved in the moment.
- Truth-telling is celebrated and encouraged, but is done with love, compassion, and care for the relationship, and not blaming.
- We understand that all relationships are co-created. We are two people who are shaping every moment of our relationship. We avoid victim mentality at all costs, and take ownership of our part.
- We strive for a multidimensional connection with each other on the physical, emotional, intellectual + spiritual levels.
- There is a dance of union + separation. We know how to be deeply intimate with each other, but also know how to separate into our own energy and space when needed to protect against codependency.
- Above all, we focus on the incredible opportunity this gifts us: being loved fully for all of our parts, experiencing deep intimacy with our partners, skyrocketing our personal development through the container of deep love + support, AND getting to model this for our children and everyone around us.
If you'd like to take your relationship to the next level,
or if you're seeking to shift your relationship patterns,
contact me here so we can talk about how I can help you.