What are conscious relationships?
The higher spiritual purpose of relationships is clear. They are here for us to grow + evolve into our highest potential.
Relationships help us in large part because they are mirrors: they show us things that we are not able to see on our own. They bring all of our unconscious material up to the surface to be looked at. Through seeing our blind spots, we are able to take responsibility for any healing or growth that is necessary for our highest expression.
Most people know that relationships bring up all of our 'stuff' - and this happens on purpose so that anything that needs to come to the surface to heal can be healed. They are a beautiful opportunity for this to occur. But this is only possible within a conscious relationship, where both people know that triggers and buttons get pushed, and they are a signal that a part of us still needs to heal or resolve things from the past. When we turn towards each other with love and support rather than avoid, suppress, or blame, we heal together in the context of relationships.
We're living in a time where people are beginning to realize the true purpose of relationships, and I have experienced firsthand (and with my clients) that the amount of growth possible within conscious relationships is unparalleled. When we can learn how to be in relationships consciously, we help guide the evolution of humanity - one person at a time.
How I support people to practice conscious relationship skills:
Here are some of the skills that I work on with people who come to me for relationship support. I work with both single people and those in relationships.
- Developing clear, healthy communication skills - including truth-telling with love
- Having a growth mentality in relationships
- Learning how to work with triggers (and get through bumps in the road smoothly)
- Protecting against codependency and the empath-narcissist cycle
- Learning about healthy boundaries and standards in relationships
- Moving into secure attachment from anxious, avoidant, or disorganized attachment
- Healing the relationship with your body and sexuality
- Understanding the balance of masculine + feminine, both within ourselves and in relationships
- Learning about how relationships are co-created between both partners, and how to make shifts
- Healing from breakups and divorce
- Avoiding the drama triangle trap + victim mentality
- Addressing mother and father wounds to heal our adult romantic relationships
Why this is important for us collectively
Right now we are stepping into a new way of doing relationships - we are realizing that they are a vehicle for growth + evolution. Too often, relationships can create more harm than good, and we are leaving the old ways behind of disempowering dynamics such as codependency and power differentials.
However, we don't have many models of what a truly healthy, conscious relationship looks like between two people who are aware of how to skillfully use a relationship to grow together. This is why many of my clients who are dedicated to this work are the trailblazers who ARE the models for everyone around them.
This takes courage, commitment and a willingness to do things very differently. But the impact on yourself, your partner, and everyone around you is huge.
However, we don't have many models of what a truly healthy, conscious relationship looks like between two people who are aware of how to skillfully use a relationship to grow together. This is why many of my clients who are dedicated to this work are the trailblazers who ARE the models for everyone around them.
This takes courage, commitment and a willingness to do things very differently. But the impact on yourself, your partner, and everyone around you is huge.
Who my work is for:
Most of my clients are not new to therapy and personal development. They may have been in therapy for years, but felt like something was missing.
The way that I work is transformative, and people come to me because they can make major progress in 3-6 months. We get right to the heart of the matter. After that point, we usually taper back the frequency, and eventually may need to check in only once in a while.
My goal is to have you not need me anymore. Most therapists and coaches either intentionally or unintentionally encourage clients to become dependent on them, so they keep coming back.
This is not okay with me - I want you to make big progress.
My ideal clients are motivated to grow + evolve, and put in the work to get there.
I often suggest things to work on in between our sessions (especially things you can practice now, in all of your relationships).
When clients take personal responsibility for their growth, the results are phenomenal.
If you are someone who has a lot of unhealed trauma, are brand new to therapy, and/or are often dysregulated or in crisis mode, then I'm not the right fit for you. However, I can help refer you to someone who can help.
My work is for the trailblazers, the ones who want to stretch, build, grow + level up. My people want to radically transform the way they do relationships and are ready to make an impact on their children and everyone around them. They are motivated and take the work seriously.