Are you an empath who gets tangled up with narcissists?
There is a way out, and I can help you.
80% of my clients are empaths who have come to me for support because they have a pattern of being in relationships with narcissistic and other types of character disordered individuals.
How do you know if you're an empath?
Much has been shared about empaths in recent years, and while I don't love labels, there is a truth to the pattern. These qualities also exist on a spectrum, which is good to keep in mind.
You're probably an empath if:
- You are a kind, compassionate person who feels things deeply
- You are quite sensitive, picking up energy easily
- People tend to come to you to share their problems, you are a good listener who cares about others
- You sometimes put other people's needs above your own, or put others on a pedestal
- In relationships, you tend to 'lose yourself'
- People-pleasing is something you can easily fall into
- Some of the characteristics of codependency seem to fit you
- It's easy for you to see the best in others (but sometimes you miss red flags)
- Relationships can sometimes feel draining, like they suck the life force out of you
Many empaths are also intuitive to the point of having psychic abilities, especially clairsentience.
What are the common characteristics of narcissists to watch out for?
Again, I don't love labels, and the term 'narcissist' has been grossly overused these days. But without a doubt, these people exist and their numbers have been growing in recent years. People can either have certain narcissistic characteristics, or have full blown narcissistic personality disorder (NPD).
Narcissistic individuals tend to:
Because empaths and narcissists tend to be at opposite ends of the spectrum, they tend to attract each other. Empaths are caring and see the best in people, so can sometimes want to 'help' narcissists, whom they believe to be troubled and in need of support. So while they move towards them, the narcissists can easily sense that this is the type of person they can take advantage of.
Unfortunately, it is a common misconception that narcissists have underlying trauma that have caused them to be the way that they are. After writing the article here that addresses this topic, many people reached out telling me they were finally able to see the person with true, clear eyes.
I truly wish we lived in a world where the character traits of empaths were respected and honored. However, we live in a time where manipulative people are growing and are a real threat. The stories that I've heard from clients who come to me for support are heartbreaking - nobody should have to put up with this kind of treatment.
The good news is that there is a clear path out of this cycle. Let me help you find the way out.
Narcissistic individuals tend to:
- Over-value themselves and have an inflated ego
- Display entitlement towards people/things without having to do anything
- Lack empathy and/or the ability to see things from others' perspectives
- Have an underdeveloped (or completely absent) conscience
- Lack true care + concern for others (although they sometimes put on a show)
- Get labeled 'energy vampires' because they suck or pull energy/resources from others without reciprocity
- Manipulate people and situations to get their way, often at whatever cost
- Gaslight other people, disregarding or twisting their feelings to make them think they are wrong or 'crazy'
- Be overly emotionally reactive, can be quick to anger or get frustrated, and lack impulse control
Because empaths and narcissists tend to be at opposite ends of the spectrum, they tend to attract each other. Empaths are caring and see the best in people, so can sometimes want to 'help' narcissists, whom they believe to be troubled and in need of support. So while they move towards them, the narcissists can easily sense that this is the type of person they can take advantage of.
Unfortunately, it is a common misconception that narcissists have underlying trauma that have caused them to be the way that they are. After writing the article here that addresses this topic, many people reached out telling me they were finally able to see the person with true, clear eyes.
I truly wish we lived in a world where the character traits of empaths were respected and honored. However, we live in a time where manipulative people are growing and are a real threat. The stories that I've heard from clients who come to me for support are heartbreaking - nobody should have to put up with this kind of treatment.
The good news is that there is a clear path out of this cycle. Let me help you find the way out.
You can liberate yourself from this cycle + attract healthy love.
Over the years of working with many clients who are empaths (especially women), I have developed an effective formula for breaking the empath-narcissist manipulation and abuse cycle.
I also use an assessment when we first begin working together to measure your strengths and areas of need within the common areas to focus on. This allows us to specifically target where you need support in an efficient way, and we can also measure your progress over time.
I do not see many people using this method with clients, but it saves a lot of time, money, and energy.
Here are the common areas that we focus on to break the cycle:
I also use an assessment when we first begin working together to measure your strengths and areas of need within the common areas to focus on. This allows us to specifically target where you need support in an efficient way, and we can also measure your progress over time.
I do not see many people using this method with clients, but it saves a lot of time, money, and energy.
Here are the common areas that we focus on to break the cycle:
- Building healthy levels of self-love and self-worth. This protects against putting others on pedestals, self-abandonment, and attracting people who take advantage of you.
- Healing anxious attachment and moving into secure, healthy attachment
- Developing clear, healthy communication, especially with boundaries
- Becoming more assertive, resilient + courageous
- Avoiding the drama triangle trap + victim mentality
- Building the ability to sense and see red flags long before getting involved
- Addressing mother and father wounds to heal our adult relationships