Many of you have been asking for my definition of conscious relationships, and I'm more than happy to share what I practice.
Conscious Relationship Agreements:
We know that conscious romantic relationships bring up all of our 'stuff' so that we can heal and grow - things we can't see on our own, and things that don't get activated in other types of relationships.
We commit to doing the inner work to heal triggers and old patterns for the sake of ourselves, our partners, and everyone around us.
(This is what makes these relationships CONSCIOUS, and not unconscious. We are not operating from auto-pilot. We become aware of what we are doing, how we are responding, and get super curious about that.)
We understand that these relationships encourage deep vulnerability so that we can experience what it feels like to be loved fully for all of our parts.
We practice moving through conflict in a healthy way, without running away from challenges.
We understand that relationships are co-created. We are two people who are shaping every moment of our relationship. We avoid victim mentality and take ownership of our part.
We are fully aware of the potential of conscious romantic relationships to be THE #1 driver for our evolution. This is because they bring up everything that needs to be healed - much more so than any other type of relationship. We are committed to growth, both of ourselves and each other.
We strive for a multidimensional connection with each other on the physical, emotional, intellectual + spiritual levels, which deepens our bond and intimacy beyond words.
These principles guide not only our relationship, but the work that I am committed to doing here and in the world.
How does your relationship relate to these characteristics?
What's your own definition of a healthy, conscious partnership?
What parts of the above may be easy for you, and what's hard?
I work with people on a daily basis to help support these types of evolved relationships. If you're fired up to do this work, book a call with me here so we can talk.
My name is Leigh-Anne, and I am a holistic psychologist specializing in love, sex + relationships.