What I love about my man is that he doesn't leave.
No matter how strong and intense my energy is, he doesn't leave.
He welcomes it. He can handle my charge, and he sees how it sharpens his own sword of Presence.
This allows me the safety and security to peel back the layers of all of my masks/ego so that I can stand in front of him in true Authenticity.
And then the container gets stronger with SO MUCH Trust that our connection is profound beyond words.
My man doesn't leave.
Even when my nervous system can't possibly hold the amount of love that he's directing at me and I try to escape feeling the intensity of that charge, and his full presence, leading me to unconsciously self-sabotage what we have in subtle ways.
Gay and Kathleen Hendricks pinpoint that the only problem in awakened, conscious relationships is the Upper Limit Problem.
That the only thing you REALLY have to watch out for at this level is blocking your own ability to experience the majesty of such a high-level container, which often plays out through unconscious self-sabotage.
They write, "most of us cannot be close to others for very long without creating a problem to limit the positive energy."
This is what we're playing with right now. Can we allow the high vibrational energy that we co-created in our relationship to run through our system without freaking out and trying to block it from coming in?
We often think that we avoid relationships when things get hard, and that's true, but can you ask yourself if the opposite is also true? That you simply can't handle the charge of SO MUCH GOODNESS?
In what ways are you committed to expanding your nervous system's ability to hold maximum joy, love, and pleasure?
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There are a lot of problematic teachings currently happening in "the scene," so please watch if you're using polarity in your relationships/dating.
I've spoken about the dogma since day one, but get very clear and specific in this video.
Have you felt the restrictiveness in the way masculine/feminine polarity is being taught?
Do you feel that the energetics of masculine and feminine are being taught in a watered down, superficial, dogmatic way?
Additionally, I touch upon why you do not (and should not) have polarity activated 100% of the time.
This is a very important video to watch if you're interested in polarity, or are currently applying the teachings.
Let me know any questions or comments you may have so we can iron it all out. The core universal truths of polarity remain in tact, but we need to be careful about filtering them through the lens of ego vs. truth.
There's multiple ego deaths + rebirths happening over here. It feels exciting, necessary, and totally inconvenient.
I've ALWAYS experienced the biggest breakthroughs by opening to the most uncomfortable truths.
(Have you, too?)
That's why from a place of love + service, my work has an element of tough love.
For those of us that do well with this approach, the sword of truth/love can get right to the core, quickly.
I've been told multiple times that my work is "confronting."
I am not here to placate or enable you. That would actually be the opposite of love.
I refuse to water down my work to make it easier to swallow, and I trust my people are strong, hearty and willing to do the work.
We have to ask ourselves often, are we truly placing ourselves out of our comfort zones? For the benefit of humanity?
At this stage in my life + career, I've shifted from the sweet, overprotective enabler into the archetype of Kali Ma who wields the sword of truth + love to destroy all that no longer serves you.
One of the most misunderstood expressions of the feminine: as fearsome as she may appear, she is actually the most compassionate.
Most of us turn away from experiences like this.
Some of us willingly call them in.
I serve people who are brave + ready.
Whenever you are against the body, you are going against God. - Osho
WOMEN'S CIRCLE: Opening to Sensuality
Saturday, July 17th
4:00 - 5:30 PM PST
July's Circle is all about connecting to the divine feminine. How do you connect with your body, intuition, pleasure, emotions? How easy is it for you to shift out of the more masculine-oriented rational mind into these other ways of experiencing life?
This circle will be a combination of teaching, sharing, embodiment, and community building.
FREE for members
$44 for non-members
Link in bio - Upcoming Events ✨
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Truly my favorite conversation ever with transformational coach and menâs work leader Mikaal Bates about masculine/feminine polarity, David Deidaâs three stages of relationship, conscious/spiritual partnership, and SO much more.
What questions or comments do you have for us?
We are passionate about this work and want to hear from you.
In this IGTV video, I speak about the obvious tie-in between the masculine + feminine and our physical bodies.
Men and women are VERY different creatures, and that is sacred and holy. This is something that is currently being minimized or bypassed by the new wave of polarity teachers.
Let me know your thoughts in the comments - let's discuss!
I remember the universe smacking me HARD across the face back in 2015 when my therapist made the wise observation that people pleasing was manipulative (of course this was in relation to how I was showing up in the relationship.)
My ex and I were in the throes of darkness, trying to repair our far-gone marriage with 2x weekly counseling.
A huge theme was that I was not being my true self - I was putting him on a pedestal and shapeshifting myself into whatever I thought he wanted me to be for his love + approval (I guess you could label that an extreme form of people pleasing).
As it washed over me that I had totally abandoned myself while simultaneously manipulating him into believing I was something that I was not (obviously not on purpose, but you know…) I felt the sting. I finally began to understand co-creation + ownership of my behavior + the realization that I needed to do some serious work on self-love.
Obviously we do this not because we want to be manipulative, but because we feel we don’t have any other choice. The real version of us that we could show up as is just not lovable or worthy.
Nevertheless, it’s behavior that needed to change, and as I relaxed back into my true self and REALLY got in touch with who I was + what I needed, the relationship unraveled and we eventually divorced.
I share this story with you because:
1) I know so many can relate, and
2) I want to tell you that being your authentic self is ALWAYS the way.
I never would’ve attracted Andrés if I hadn’t healed that pattern...
and I want to empower you to get SO real with who you are, what you need, and what you have to offer that there’s simply no other way to be.
Let me know in the comments why you’re DONE with people pleasing + abandoning yourself.
Let’s collectively burn that sh-t to the ground.