True Feminine Power
Women: we need to learn power as much as we need to learn love.
In this context, I mean feminine power. (Not masculine power. We already know that.)
One of the greatest gifts we can bring to the table at this time is FULL feminine expression - which includes feminine power. Of course it does. But few understand this.
Men won't understand what this means because women don't even understand this yet - it's rare that you see a woman wielding true feminine power in a clean way.
(This is not inverted feminine power that I speak of. That, by the way is being totally bred, cultivated and fed upon. Used against the women who are displaying that kind of "power," and they don't even realize it. But they will wake up.)
True feminine power is the integration of the divine union within the feminine, the light and the dark within us as women that can be alchemized and birthed into the New World.
And imagine being empowered as women to work with this high alchemy to bring that kind of energy to our lives, to our relationships - this is a true key that will birth the way forward - and it's an area we need to master as women.
In part, it has to do with refusing to accept the feminine as a one dimensional archetype (ha!! as if...this goes against the whole cyclical nature of women!) and to understand that the multitude of feminine archetypes need to be understood and embodied and wielded for us to bring our true and full gifts to the world.
On some level, it's easy. Just let the four archetypes that move through your body monthly with your god given cycle express through you with great honor - maiden, mother, wild woman and crone.
Understand how to work with the frequencies of the light and the dark in this way with deep reverence, and know that it's ALL divine. All part of the perfect plan.
WOMAN, you are so holy. It's time for you to bring your full medicine out into the world now, unapologetically.
If you want men to understand you, you need to embody your full expression and serve as a model for The Authentic Woman to be seen, now.
And men, lay down worshipping the False Feminine and understand there is still a lot more for you to learn about women and who we really are. Because we have not yet been fully expressed at an authentic level.
Understand that women at our highest are the greatest gift to you as men (and vice versa).
There is no more competition, no more war between men + women.
Let's stop playing that sick orchestrated game that is anti-life and anti-love.
All that we need to do is love each other so hard and accept nothing less than what's real, organic, and true: that men + women need each other, and if we do not heal then we lose it all.
If you want to learn true feminine power, allow me to be your guide.
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The War on Love, Sex + Relationships
.Hi all, it's Leigh-Anne.
There is a war on healthy relationships - in particular, relationships between men + women. There has been for a long time.
It is destroying marriages, eroding families, and robbing us of our divine birthright to embody our TRUE essences.
Since day one, we've been implanted with false ideas of what it means to be men + women.
Some of this programming has been unintentional from those who didn’t know any better, but much of it IS intentional manipulation, and serves an agenda that does not have our best interests at heart.
Hatred and division between men + women is one example.
I used to think this was solely the result of natural cause + effect between the history of male/female relationships. However, there’s a bigger thing at play that’s pitting men + women against each other and encouraging the divide.
If you want to begin your way down the rabbit hole, listen to this incredible presentation by Mark Passio. (Head's up - it's intense, but worth it. And Part Two is even better.)
The list of tools being used to erode authentic sexuality and relationships between men + women is a long one. But here are some of the major ones:
⚔️ Pornography - it's literally hijacking people's brains (especially men's) with heavily distorted preferences that were never theirs to begin with.
We all know that porn desensitizes you, shows a completely unrealistic view of what sex is, does NOT depict people in true sacred union who love each other deeply, and quite frankly, has gotten way more dark, violent, and deranged nowadays than it's ever been.
Back in the day you had to work really hard to access porn (even magazines!) and now it's everywhere with the click of a button, feeding dark addictions all over the place.
Men are becoming addicted at alarming rates and are compulsively masturbating, releasing all of their life force energy (ejaculation) leaving them depleted and weak.
(Thankfully, conversations around semen retention and preserving life force energy are happening more and more - but until men can see just how disempowering this truly is, things won't change.)
Porn = the inversion of sacred sexuality.
It's also targeting our children and grooming them from a very young age.
As a mother, I say HELL NO to this.
This conversation is huge, and this article only serves as an introduction to some of the heavy hitters when it comes to the erosion of sacred union.
I'm only able to give you tidbit sized information on each one of these areas here, but trust that more is coming.
I'm writing a book called The War on Love, Sex + Relationships and am collaborating with experts in the field who clearly see what's going on.
This work is huge and cannot be done alone by one person; we need to work together, because this is truly a spiritual war.
OK, so here are more pieces...
⚔️ Promiscuity Programming - basically, the programming that we are all subjected to that tells us it's okay to have casual sex all over the place. Hookup culture.
Essentially, cheapening sexual energy and robbing us of discernment when it comes to choosing incredible partners who are worthy of sharing this kind of sacred energy with.
It's impacting women as well as in men starting from childhood.
Sometimes disguised behind phrases such as "sex positive." Do not be fooled, this is yet another erosion of the sacred sexual exchange between men + women. It is not "empowerment" to share your sexual energy all over the place with anything that moves, falling prey to your base animalistic desires.
Women especially, use discernment with whose seed you allow into your body. Read my post here for a deeper discussion on why we need to be particular about who we choose to share our bodies with.
The trend towards open relationships + polyamory is part of this, as a mission to destroy monogamy. Monogamous relationships between two people are the only relationships where Divine Union can occur.
Divine Union is the path to awakening, which is why it is being targeted.
⚔️ Neo-Feminism and angry women who hate men - trust me, I know all about trauma at the hands of men, but healing has to happen.
A huge part of my life story is a woman who's had to deeply heal her relationship with men (literally from day one with a father who was abusive on all the levels).
It has taken LOADS of work here over many years, but I've been very intentional with it and am undoing not only my own personal trauma, but also deep generational trauma in my mother line.
I am now in the happiest and healthiest place I have been with men (and the masculine) - I can truly say I LOVE men, and this is a big part of why I am a huge advocate of men's work. I have also been blessed with a son and care deeply with the trajectory of where our men are headed.
Although feminism began with good intentions, the movement has been hijacked and does not have anyone's best interest in mind.
(This is the case with many other movements that have been started by well intentioned people who want to do good in the world. They become taken over and used as weapons in various agendas.)
AND, there's more...
⚔️ A poisoned food supply that’s completely altering men + women’s hormones. Look up Tyrone Hayes' work if you want some disturbing truth here, and this is just one example.
⚔️ An overall weakening of basic relationship skills, the ability to communicate clearly and honestly with each other, and even time spent with each other hanging out in person. Yes, technology and social media have great aspects, but also very detrimental ones as well.
It's getting really bad out there - and we will never progress to true spiritual partnerships with each other if we don't have a strong foundation of basic relationship skills.
⚔️ Lack of understanding about masculine/feminine polarity, and intentional depolarization - two beings at the same pole will never find each other sexually attractive.
However, popular polarity teachings are to be taken with a grain of salt - many problems in the community that want to take us back in time. This is a huge conversation I can't get into here, but I have been speaking out about this since 2017, reflecting on the early movements that were popping up here in Los Angeles. (I speak about this on Instagram a lot.)
⚔️ Any manifestation of the control game of victim/victimizer, dominant/submissive, etc. that exists in society. This perpetuates the victim triangle and keeps us locked in to the roles of victim, persecutor, and rescuer, and the whole triangle.
Lynne Forrest's article here is an excellent primer on how we need to step out of the victim triangle in order to evolve collectively.
⚔️ SO MUCH MORE...moral relativism, massive sex + gender confusion, child + sex trafficking, the whole sex work industry, BDSM, all kinds of addictions, and any kind of distortions within any love, sex + relationship teachings (whether conscious or unconscious).
This is a spiritual war, and we are living in the dark ages.
Are you here to help shine a light on all of the depravity?
If so, please reach out to me because I'm creating a task force of people fired up about this work so that we can tackle it together. If you want to be part of the countermovement to protect sacred union, then please message me on Instagram here.
Oh, and by the way - let me make one thing very clear.
I absolutely love sex. I adore it. But it is holy, and I reserve it for sacred partnership.
Don't forget that sexual energy is probably the easiest type of energy to manipulate in humans.
Do not fall prey.
Hold it high.
There's a lot more to the story, and I'm currently working on the book I mentioned above that outlines the whole thing.
Men + women need each other, and beyond the emotional + spiritual reasons why, the literal survival of humanity depends on it.
We are seeing a major decrease in polarity worldwide leading to an epidemic of intimacy problems, asexuality, low birth rates, and mass confusion regarding gender roles.
Think about all of the conditioning you’ve experienced since day one. How much of this is really you, and how much of it was never you to begin with?
What needs to be let go of in order for you to be truly yourself?
How many generations does this even go back, and what are you carrying in your DNA that has been distorted?
I speak often about all of this publicly on Instagram and my podcast.
I also taught a related class called Matrix Relationships vs. True Divine Union that you can find here.
And finally, if you need support, please book a call with me so we can help you unravel from all of this lower level BS + reach your deepest desires in love, sex + relationships.
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How to Attract Epic Love
My name is Leigh-Anne, and I'm a psychologist specializing in love, sex + relationships. I use the principles of conscious relationships and divine union to guide people to incredible love and partnership.
This masterclass teaches you the keys to attract incredible love that have worked for both myself and my clients. I'm so excited to share it with you.
If you need support with any of the parts I described, book a call with me here so we can talk more about how to attract epic love into your life.
Whenever you are against the body, you are going against God. - Osho
WOMEN'S CIRCLE: Opening to Sensuality
Saturday, July 17th
4:00 - 5:30 PM PST
July's Circle is all about connecting to the divine feminine. How do you connect with your body, intuition, pleasure, emotions? How easy is it for you to shift out of the more masculine-oriented rational mind into these other ways of experiencing life?
This circle will be a combination of teaching, sharing, embodiment, and community building.
Photo via @thealeeshasimone
I remember the universe smacking me HARD across the face seven years ago when my therapist made the wise observation that people pleasing was manipulative (she was referring to how I was showing up in my marriage.)
My ex and I were in the throes of darkness, trying to repair our far-gone relationship with 2x weekly counseling.
A huge theme was that I was not being myself. I was putting him on a pedestal and shapeshifting into whatever I thought he wanted me to be for his love + approval.
As it washed over me that I had totally abandoned myself while simultaneously manipulating him into believing I was something that I was not (obviously not on purpose, but you know…) I felt the sting.
I finally began to understand how relationships are co-created.
I took ownership of my behavior + realized that I needed to do some serious work on self-love.
As I relaxed back into my true self and REALLY got in touch with who I was + what I needed, the relationship unraveled and we eventually divorced.
(Which is exactly what was needed, because we were clearly not an authentic match.)
After I cleaned up that part of my life, I realized that so many other people were doing the same exact thing. I began to have conversations with people and talk openly about this behavior in my women's cirlces, and also dive in deeper from a psychological perspective.
Obviously we don't do this because we want to be manipulative, but because we feel we don’t have any other choice. We have decided that the real version of us is just not lovable or worthy.
And so the root cause is always damaged levels of self-love and self-worth, which means we have to decondition ourselves from whatever garbage we were taught about what is and is not lovable. It really is like a soul retrieval.
But the most incredible thing that I want to share with you is that once you do this work, and attract in your TRUE PERSON from this place, someone who loves you exactly for who you are, and someone you can relax fully around, it's the most incredible feeling in the world.
It allows the truest, most authentic love that you've ever felt to be experienced, and that is ecstasy.
It is one of the keys to experiencing a love beyond your wildest dreams.
I share this story with you because:
1) I know so many can relate, and
2) I want to tell you that being your true self is ALWAYS the way.
I help people stop the pattern of people pleasing + abandoning themselves everyday. If you need support, reach out and schedule a call so we can talk about how to reclaim your truest, fullest self.
From that place, everything that is meant for you at a soul level comes.
Our Evolution is Beautiful
After having some wild younger years, I’m now settling into what some people may consider ‘vanilla.'
I'm not a fan of labels, but I could use these today: female, heterosexual, monogamous, woman.
I feel so old.
Back in the day, I broke all the rules with promiscuity, drugs, bisexuality, androgyny, angry feminism, Doc Martins, getting arrested (lol!!) and all the non-conformist expressions.
Now I still don’t fit in, but in a very different way. 😁
It’s been really fun to experience life full spectrum. But being in a monogamous union with a man practicing sacred polarity has been the MOST healing experience of my life.
As far as I’m concerned, anyone can do ANYTHING they want to do in WHATEVER way they want to do it. But for those of you who are called to explore conscious, high-level, super passionate-for-years monogamy, this is your place and I am your guide.
I'm getting back on Clubhouse this Friday with some friends after taking a break. We'll be talking about monogamy vs. open relationships.
Photo of me by @shyheartstudios
Lots of events coming up. Hope to see you there!
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MASTERCLASS: The Power of Conscious Relationships
Saturday, July 3rd
1 PM PST
Learn why romantic relationships have such powerful potential to help us grow, and understand how you can move towards this with powerful tools and techniques. If you're single, allow these teachings to bring a new vision to what you want to create in future partnerships. Come ask questions + receive laser coaching.
WOMEN'S CIRCLE: Opening to Sensuality
Saturday, July 17th
4:00 - 5:30 PM PST
July's Circle is all about connecting to the Divine Feminine. How do you connect with your body, intuition, pleasure, emotions? How easy is it for you to shift out of the more masculine-oriented rational mind into these other ways of being? This circle will be a combination of teaching, embodiment, and community building.
WORKSHOP: Masculine/Feminine Polarity
Saturday, July 24th
3:00 PM PST
Polarity is the key to attraction, and yet many people lack a fundamental understanding of it. Learn how to work with masculine/feminine polarity in your current relationship or while dating in order to keep the fire going long-term. You'll learn how to put polarity into practice in a non-dogmatic way where you're allowed to be your full spectrum self.
"One thing about awakened monogamy: It makes possible the kind of relationship that can transcend relationship. Touching the One through the two. Freedom through intimacy.
Awakened monogamy is, in other words, a liberating bondage, a deeply joined freefall into what really matters.
Multiple-partnering is too wrapped up in the payoffs and juicy distractions of the shallow end of the pool to consistently generate the depth possible through awakened monogamy."
- Robert Augustus Masters
Having lived this over the past three years, I can tell you this is 100% the truth.
I honestly don't care what kind of relationship arrangement you have, but I stand by my firm belief that monogamy is the deepest form of spiritual partnership.
Many people exploring open relationships only do so as a band aid for fundamental problems in their primary partnership.
I've seen it time and time again that when people open the relationship, it's the beginning of the end.
Regardless of whether it works for those choosing it or not, you simply cannot have the depth with multiple people that you can have with one partner.
Are you into depth or superficiality?
There's no right or wrong, it just depends on what you want.
If I knew that my partner was sleeping with other people, I would NEVER be able to open fully to him, and vice versa.
And the more you open, the more you allow your partner to see ALL OF YOU, and that's where the profound healing and connection takes place. That's where all of a sudden you catapult your evolution into realms you never knew existed.
This is why we are advocates for conscious monogamy.
My work isn't for everyone, but if this speaks to you, let's reclaim monogamy as a spiritual vehicle for our highest evolution and teach others to do the same.
What are your thoughts on monogamy vs. open relationships? Let me know in the comments below.
Most women are too masculine.
Most women are acting way too masculine, and I want to talk about how this is hurting women (+ men).
We all have a mix of masculine + feminine inside, and it’s fine to play along the spectrum consciously.
And if there are women who truly lean more towards the masculine because that’s part of their core essence, that’s great.
But FAR too many women have taken on overly masculine characteristics because of:
🌹 Unhealed trauma
🌹 Social conditioning
🌹 Generally feeling unsafe in their feminine
I’ve spoken a lot about how I used to operate primarily from my masculine (without being conscious of it, obviously)...
And not just from my masculine, but from a REALLY wounded version of it.
Because of 𝚜𝚎𝚡𝚞𝚊𝚕 + emotional abuse as well as cultural programming, I had a ton of internalized misogyny that I directed outwards onto women around me (but mostly onto myself.)
I was swimming in drugs and alcohol + engaging in all sorts of self-destructive behaviors meant to kill my soft, sensitive, intuitive, emotional parts.
Friends observed that I was a completely different person sober vs. drunk/high. Sober I couldn’t function as the true version of myself, so I self-isolated.
Healing my relationship with my femininity has been the #1 most important thing, and continues to be, as it is a never ending exploration of peeling back the layers.
Allowing myself to soften and surrender into my feminine had to happen alongside me forgiving my father + working through anger towards men.
Only then was I able to check my trauma for the armor that I had put on.
Now I have a man that I trust wholeheartedly, who truly honors my femininity, and I’m telling you that this is the work that women have to do to attract this type of man.
"In our culture, suppressed Feminine fury is either turned back upon itself in a mood of self-destruction, or propelled outward in a mood of rage."
- David Deida, Intimate Communion
When women are imbalanced, we may experience:
🌹 Disconnection from our bodies
🌹 Emotional suppression
🌹 Inability to relax and surrender
🌹 Lackluster 𝚜𝚎𝚡 + low libido
🌹 Disconnection from our intuition
🌹 Anxiousness and/or depression
🌹 Weight gain as a form of protection
🌹 Overwhelm + irritability
🌹 Inability to open to love, abundance, and life itself.
What are some other things you've experienced? Let me know in the comments below.
Men lose, too, because women lack radiance, vibrancy, joy, and pleasure. We’re constantly busy, lack a soft and receptive heart, can’t relax, don't fully open in the bedroom, and are snappy and irritable.
Clearly this situation has been co-created. Both men and women have played a part.
That is why I ALWAYS advocate for both women’s and men’s work.
Here are some other requirements:
We honor the feminine as much as the masculine.
We make it safe for the feminine to be reclaimed, and encourage yin/yang to rebalance universally.
We become aware of how healing it can be to slow down, soften, and surrender.
We remove the protective armor of over-masculinization.
We take responsibility for healing our trauma.
We move past anger and victim mentality into what we TRULY want to create for our lives.
We make the choice to change now.
We make the choice to live in accordance with our values.
We make the choice of who we’re in relationships with.
We make the choice of what we want to build together.
In this time of collective wake up calls, now’s the time to see with clear eyes.
What’s one thing you can commit to shifting today?
If this is something you're motivated to work on with my support, please book a call with me here so we can talk more about how to get you there.
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I want to hear from you if your parents had a happy, healthy, lasting relationship when you were growing up.
You were shown what an incredible relationship looks like: one filled with open communication, love, and trust. And they ALSO modeled healthy 𝚜𝚎𝚡uality through regularly showing affection and keeping the spark alive.
Did you witness that? If so, let me know in the comments below, and tell us how this has had a positive impact on your life.
I also want to hear from you if you did NOT witness this, and the impact it's had on you, too.
I witnessed the complete opposite, and it took me 40 years to be able to do it VERY differently.
I don't want it to take you 40 years. I don't want it to take my son 40 years. I want people to learn this from the VERY BEGINNING, and that's why spending time healing your relationship with love, 𝚜𝚎𝚡 and relationships is SO MUCH BIGGER THAN JUST YOU.
Yes, this is something that is incredible for you to have. But more importantly, it's what you model out into the world - to your friends, family, and children.
Do you want another generation of humans broken in love? Continuing to pass on wounds in a cycle that never ends?
NO. Me neither.
That's why I've dedicated my life to this work.
Reach out and schedule a call with me if you need support.
My name is Leigh-Anne, and I am a holistic psychologist specializing in love, sex + relationships.