Attachment wounds are relational wounds that can only fully heal in the context of relationship.
This is why people with a more avoidant attachment are at a disadvantage, because they tend to avoid relationships. Or, they float around to various partners without commitment, robbing them of the full depth needed for the healing of their wounds, the wounds that drove them to become avoidant in the first place. So compared to people with a secure or even anxious attachment, those with avoidant attachment heal much more slowly - unless they recognize what's happening and resist the urge to fly solo, which is their comfort zone. Given that men are more prone to avoidant attachment, they tend to fall behind when it comes to healing relational wounds and rising up into the full potential of conscious relationship (using relationships to grow and evolve) and divine union (which requires commitment, spiritual depth, and fearlessness). And sometimes, the potency of the container of these types of relationships (really, vehicles of evolution) are subconsciously scary to them because they know it requires surrender of the ego, which has a tighter grip on men vs. women. Ego death also requires a walk through the underworld, and as fearless as men seem, it's a terrain they're just not used to. Since women embody the death-rebirth process (physically, emotionally, and spiritually) on a monthly basis, we actually are more comfortable in these realms. And so with this reality that men tend to fall behind compared to women when it comes to relational maturity, women have two choices - to either become smug, or to soften into compassion and step into the awakened woman's role in healing love, sex and relationships globally. Women are healers within this realm, because we provide the salve necessary for men to recover in relationships. We do this by holding men's hearts with deep love and compassion, while simultaneously devoting ourselves to evolutionary love. Which means, that we are comfortable being the mirror for him, which isn't always pleasant. This visionary template is the highest timeline for the new paradigm of love, sx and relationships. Rather than see it as a chore or hold resentment around this mission, we open our hearts to men's wounds and take a compassionate approach to inviting them to the table - a metaphorical representation of the vastly expansive realm of what's possible in the alchemical container of relationship. We anchor this within our energetic field first and remain devoted to the divine template - and THEN invite men in from this place. It's stunningly beautiful and yet requires strength, discipline, and full commitment, because everything in this world is directing us towards the opposite path. My mission is to heal the relationship between men and women, and this is a huge piece of how it's done on the women's side of things.
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