Most women are too masculine.
Most women are acting way too masculine, and I want to talk about how this is hurting women (+ men).
We all have a mix of masculine + feminine inside, and it’s fine to play along the spectrum consciously.
And if there are women who truly lean more towards the masculine because that’s part of their core essence, that’s great.
But FAR too many women have taken on overly masculine characteristics because of:
🌹 Unhealed trauma
🌹 Social conditioning
🌹 Generally feeling unsafe in their feminine
I’ve spoken a lot about how I used to operate primarily from my masculine (without being conscious of it, obviously)...
And not just from my masculine, but from a REALLY wounded version of it.
Because of 𝚜𝚎𝚡𝚞𝚊𝚕 + emotional abuse as well as cultural programming, I had a ton of internalized misogyny that I directed outwards onto women around me (but mostly onto myself.)
I was swimming in drugs and alcohol + engaging in all sorts of self-destructive behaviors meant to kill my soft, sensitive, intuitive, emotional parts.
Friends observed that I was a completely different person sober vs. drunk/high. Sober I couldn’t function as the true version of myself, so I self-isolated.
Healing my relationship with my femininity has been the #1 most important thing, and continues to be, as it is a never ending exploration of peeling back the layers.
Allowing myself to soften and surrender into my feminine had to happen alongside me forgiving my father + working through anger towards men.
Only then was I able to check my trauma for the armor that I had put on.
Now I have a man that I trust wholeheartedly, who truly honors my femininity, and I’m telling you that this is the work that women have to do to attract this type of man.
"In our culture, suppressed Feminine fury is either turned back upon itself in a mood of self-destruction, or propelled outward in a mood of rage."
- David Deida, Intimate Communion
When women are imbalanced, we may experience:
🌹 Disconnection from our bodies
🌹 Emotional suppression
🌹 Inability to relax and surrender
🌹 Lackluster 𝚜𝚎𝚡 + low libido
🌹 Disconnection from our intuition
🌹 Anxiousness and/or depression
🌹 Weight gain as a form of protection
🌹 Overwhelm + irritability
🌹 Inability to open to love, abundance, and life itself.
What are some other things you've experienced? Let me know in the comments below.
Men lose, too, because women lack radiance, vibrancy, joy, and pleasure. We’re constantly busy, lack a soft and receptive heart, can’t relax, don't fully open in the bedroom, and are snappy and irritable.
Clearly this situation has been co-created. Both men and women have played a part.
That is why I ALWAYS advocate for both women’s and men’s work.
Here are some other requirements:
We honor the feminine as much as the masculine.
We make it safe for the feminine to be reclaimed, and encourage yin/yang to rebalance universally.
We become aware of how healing it can be to slow down, soften, and surrender.
We remove the protective armor of over-masculinization.
We take responsibility for healing our trauma.
We move past anger and victim mentality into what we TRULY want to create for our lives.
We make the choice to change now.
We make the choice to live in accordance with our values.
We make the choice of who we’re in relationships with.
We make the choice of what we want to build together.
In this time of collective wake up calls, now’s the time to see with clear eyes.
What’s one thing you can commit to shifting today?
If this is something you're motivated to work on with my support, please book a call with me here so we can talk more about how to get you there.
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My name is Leigh-Anne, and I am a holistic psychologist specializing in love, sex + relationships.