Most women are too masculine.

Most women are acting way too masculine, and I want to talk about how this is hurting women (+ men).⁣
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We all have a mix of masculine + feminine inside, and it’s fine to play along the spectrum consciously.⁣
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And if there are women who truly lean more towards the masculine because that’s part of their core essence, that’s great.⁣
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But FAR too many women have taken on overly masculine characteristics because of:⁣
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🌹 Unhealed trauma⁣
🌹 Social conditioning⁣
🌹 Generally feeling unsafe in their feminine⁣
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I’ve spoken a lot about how I used to operate primarily from my masculine (without being conscious of it, obviously)...⁣
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And not just from my masculine, but from a REALLY wounded version of it.⁣
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Because of 𝚜𝚎𝚡𝚞𝚊𝚕 + emotional abuse as well as cultural programming, I had a ton of internalized misogyny that I directed outwards onto women around me (but mostly onto myself.)⁣
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I was swimming in drugs and alcohol + engaging in all sorts of self-destructive behaviors meant to kill my soft, sensitive, intuitive, emotional parts.⁣
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Friends observed that I was a completely different person sober vs. drunk/high. Sober I couldn’t function as the true version of myself, so I self-isolated.⁣
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Healing my relationship with my femininity has been the #1 most important thing, and continues to be, as it is a never ending exploration of peeling back the layers.⁣
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Allowing myself to soften and surrender into my feminine had to happen alongside me forgiving my father + working through anger towards men.⁣
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Only then was I able to check my trauma for the armor that I had put on.⁣
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Now I have a man that I trust wholeheartedly, who truly honors my femininity, and I’m telling you that this is the work that women have to do to attract this type of man.⁣

"In our culture, suppressed Feminine fury is either turned back upon itself in a mood of self-destruction, or propelled outward in a mood of rage."

- David Deida, Intimate Communion⁣
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When women are imbalanced, we may experience:⁣
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🌹 Burnout⁣
🌹 Disconnection from our bodies⁣
🌹 Emotional suppression⁣
🌹 Inability to relax and surrender⁣
🌹 Lackluster 𝚜𝚎𝚡 + low libido⁣
🌹 Disconnection from our intuition⁣
🌹 Anxiousness and/or depression⁣
🌹 Weight gain as a form of protection⁣
🌹 Overwhelm + irritability⁣
🌹 Inability to open to love, abundance, and life itself.⁣
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What are some other things you've experienced?⁣  Let me know in the comments below.
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Men lose, too, because women lack radiance, vibrancy, joy, and pleasure. We’re constantly busy, lack a soft and receptive heart, can’t relax, don't fully open in the bedroom, and are snappy and irritable.⁣
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Clearly this situation has been co-created. Both men and women have played a part. ⁣
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That is why I ALWAYS advocate for both women’s and men’s work.⁣
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Here are some other requirements:⁣
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We honor the feminine as much as the masculine.⁣
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We make it safe for the feminine to be reclaimed, and encourage yin/yang to rebalance universally.⁣
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We become aware of how healing it can be to slow down, soften, and surrender.⁣
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We remove the protective armor of over-masculinization.⁣
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We take responsibility for healing our trauma.⁣
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We move past anger and victim mentality into what we TRULY want to create for our lives.⁣
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We make the choice to change now.⁣
We make the choice to live in accordance with our values.⁣
We make the choice of who we’re in relationships with.⁣
We make the choice of what we want to build together.⁣
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In this time of collective wake up calls, now’s the time to see with clear eyes.⁣
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What’s one thing you can commit to shifting today?  

If this is something you're motivated to work on with my support, please book a call with me here so we can talk more about how to get you there.
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